What should you do if you like your older brother's friend?

Just do what I did!!!

Text message him until midnight with your brother's phone! And then, go to WikiAnswers and ask if it's ok, because the answer is:

"No. It's not normal. Not only that, it's not wise. There is a lot of maturity difference at those particular ages, no matter how mature the girl is "for her age." It's best to stop texting boys that are that much older than you. or you could get a lot more than you are ready for." But text him anyway and hope your brother has unlimited texting!!! :D

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Make sure your brother doesn't care. If he doesn't flirt with his friend and see if he is interested at all. If he is, tell him that you like him.

First of all, you need to first sit down with your brother and have a real talk with him. Ask him to really tell you how he feels.

Secondly, you need to be very careful about older guys. When I was your age I dated a 20 year old, and it ended in disaster! It is not worth it to be involved with someone that much older at this point in your life. It is not a bad thing to date someone older, or younger that you for that matter, but at your age it is not the best thing. Trust me, I know. I was hurt too many times trying to date older guys.

In college I started dating a guy because he was really nice, turned out he was younger than me. It didn't matter then. We got married a few months ago, and it is really great. But for you, I would suggest you stick with the guys your age at least until you are a high school senior. It would save you some hurt, on many levels.

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Go for it sweety pie!

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I think that you should go for it me and my boyfriend are in the same position you are in. At first when we got together, we tried to hide it from my older brother. When he found out, he accepted it and it all worked out. If you were wondering he is 20 and I am 16.

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Hey I know how you feel except Im 19 and he's 25 I think he's crazy about me, but I don't know if it could last. I was going to ask the same question. If your 15 and he's at least 5 years older you shouldn't expect it to last forever. For the record, I was 13 and he was 19. He was my first love and it was wonderful. But being so many years apart, especially with him out of school, it didnt/couldnt last! It was very upsetting seeing him everywhere.

So does 19 with a 25 year old change the possiblity?

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I am in that same situation. Sadly, mine has been going on since I was in grade school. It started from my brother's friend teasing me and flirting with me, which of course as a young girl getting attention from a guy, I formed a crush. As time went on we lost touch and then got back in touch. Until my brother went away to college, the guy and I never really hung out by ourselves. Then, when I thought I would never see him anymore, we hung out with his friends. Then I wound up dating the guy's best friend, through his encouragement. Then that guy and I broke up. That summer my brother's friend kissed me. Then time went on and we talked about it once. But he had a girl at the time. Now they broke up (silly girl) and we are both single. We've hung out a little bit recently. Oh by the way, I confessed my feelings to him, when he was with his girl, and we are still friends. He said if we weren't dating anyone else we would be dating. I did talk to my brother and he is fine with the idea. He just said he isn't sure if the guy wants to date me. I didn't tell my brother everything. Anyways, I've learned to just hang out and see where things go. Being close friends is great too.

My advice, is to speak with your brother and make sure he is okay with it. Then sit down and figure out what it is that makes you like this guy. If you can come up with good, strong, solid things, then talk to him about it. If nothing really seems to stand out, realize it's just infactuation and find another one. I know it is scarry to tell someone how you feel, especially when it's that one guy you want so much. But when you tell them, the way they respond, shows what kind of guy they really are. If he laughs at you or makes you feel bad, know he isn't a good guy anyways. Go live you life!

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My brotber and I are really close. He is very protective over me, sometimes to protective! Our whole lives its just been us two. We are singled out of the family and we have a very strong relationship but, he doesn't approve of me and his one of his buddies being together. He is starting to get over it. Just try to talk to your brother and try to make him understand how you feel about this friend of his. If he can't deal with it then there isn't much else you can do! Don't be unhappy just because he doesn't like you being with one of his friends. You can't help who can make you happy, and you can't help that you have feelings for his friend! Things happen. ~Female--Georgia~

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Wow I'm happy I'm not the only one who feels this way. This guy that I like is my brother's best friend. Though my brother has a lot of friends- this guy is special. He doesn't encourage him to do anything wrong except be respectful and teaches good values to my brother because he is a year older then he is. This guy is a good guy, and my brother is the kind that would never allow me to date his friend. I flirt with him when I can, and I share the same interets as him, so its easy for me to bond with him. I just don't want my brother and this guy to stop being friends because I don't want my brother to have bad friends. This guy is too special, and I think I'm just going to have to let it go because I cannot be selfish. My brother needs him more. My brother needs this friend. I'm just happy that I will be able to see his gorgeous smile everytime he comes over. I'm sprung off him, but I have to do what's best for him. He needs my brother as much as my brother needs him. So if you are in a situation like this don't think about the present. Think about the future! And ohh by the way, I'm 17 and he's 21.

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I am in exactly that position right now. My brother has a really close friend that I've had a crush on for like two years. He's a really sweet guy, and he flirts back with me when we are together. Just recently though our relationship has shifted from harmless flirtation to a bit of a situation. My brother has talked to me about it, and although he said it would be a bit weird hes cool with it. But my brother's friend says that although I'm really cool and cute etc he doesnt want to lose my brother's friendship. I'm gooing to let it slow down for a bit, and try and bring him around to the idea. I can be a bit forward sometimes, and this guys quite shy. He's my date for prom anyway, so maybe you never know.... By the way, I'm 18, and he's 22.

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I met a really hot dude, and he is my older brother's friend. He is 2 years younger than my brother, and I like him since 4 years ago. I really want to go out with him, but I'm afraid that my brother is going to get mad at me. One day I wrote an e-mail to a friend telling her how much I liked my brother's friend. My brother read the message and got really mad at me. I was really sad and scared. I'm also very shy to talk to that dude because I don't want to get in trouble with my brother. That dude listens to the same music as me and likes the same kind of clothes (punk/goth). Anyway I really like him. Please help me! Give me some ideas of how I can get to know him better without my brother getting upset. The dude is 18 and I'm 15.

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I have to tell all of you something. I have 3 older brothers. I am now 33 years old. Growing up my brothers had a best friend named Peter. I had such a mad crush on him growning up. Everywhere my brothers went, I wanted to go because I knew Peter was going to be there. Now not too many people know of this crush even to this day. He was about 9 years older then me. At my second brother's wedding, he was my chaporone. He was an usher, I was a bridesmaid. He was 23 and I was about 14. He treated me that day like a princess. It was wonderful. My brothers they were very protective over me and we were all close, but I never told them about the crush I had for Peter. Peter was left at the alter once. He coached for the kids at the youth center and was extremely handsome. We did the 'harmless flirtation' and were the closest of friends. Everyone that Peter met, he hooked into a conversation and a friendship. He was that type of person. As you can see, I talk about him in the past tense. Peter died 2 years later by a bunch of teenager that were drinking and driving and racing down a major street (Route 5) here in Ct. I never got to tell him how I feel, and even to this day some 15 years later, I still think of Peter and how I adored him. He was to move to Florida that weekend with his parents to start a new life. 3 others died in that same car accident and no one was ever prosicuted for their deaths. I dream about Peter every night, and still to this day love him. I am now divorced with 2 children of my own. Everyday passes with me wishing that I had told him that I had more then just a teenage crush. I still visit his graveside (He was creamated because of the intense injuries he had suffered). So the mural of the story be strong and never let a moment go by, he was too young to die that night. But always use your better judgement, even in starting over in my new life, I see that men and boys are only after one thing and it takes that special personality to win you. If you are close to your brother let him know, he is the one that sees how he talks and treats other people and most importantly, woman. But remember, you are still a growing girl, don't let your heart cloud your judgement. I did and Peter is gone. Talk and people listen, play music and people will dance, live your life and you will experiance love, but never cloud your judgement. Best of Luck and Love to you.....

hey sweetie, i think i know how u feel, first of all i dont think its wrong to date an older guy, especially if you are a wise kid. i have always dated the older guys, i was only 15 when i dated a 25yrs old. i did learn alot from the reltionship; i talked wiser than my friends, i understood alot about life, cause he tells me alot, i grew faster and wiser, he treats me like a woman and i developed a sense of responsibilty at an early age, i tend to see the younger guys as wack and not knowing what relationship was all about etc. dating your elder bros friend will only be wrong if you dont know what you want and if you think relationship is all about the dude saying he loves you, you are beautiful etc, hey, if you really think you understand, match, and love him then let your brother know. he may have an advice for you.

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