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Is it possible to find true love over the internet in just a few days?In: Relationships [Recategorize] |
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(I'm using "he" as in "he, the partner" here:
sex-neutrally.)
Most posters below seem to understand the question as
"Is it possible to fall in love with someone you've never met, except
online?"
The answer to this is "Yes, but this someone is a figment of
your
imagination.
Even if your partner was absolutely honest, there are a lot of things
that can't be transmitted via text or even webcams.
So of necessity, your brain supplies the missing information, and since
you're looking for a partner, this information will be affirmative.
This doesn't even include simple misunderstandings.
And the simple fact that you fell in love so quickly is a good
indication that he was lying.
If you like things the way they are, tell your partner you don't want a
real-life relationship.
He'll either dissolve, or you can continue dreaming.
Still, there's a chance he wasn't lying and that he moreover actually
corresponds to your idea of him. So check.
But don't compromize on security issues like the dating place. If
necessary tell him bluntly there's no particular reason for you to
trust him, or for him to trust you, since anyone can say anything on
the net. Assume a worst-case scenario."
But now on to the original question:
Can I find my true love on the net in a few days?
Of course.
Actually, you may even find your true love by opening a telephone book
and blindly pointing at some name, in just 5 secs!
But seriously, I think the net is great for first-stage dating,
especially for shy people or people who aren't the norm.
(Dis)advantages of the net: (let's list the
disadvantages first)
-slow speed and narrow scope of communication: no
body language, no
facial expressions,
no pheromones, no body odor, no intonation, no
pronunciation,...
-unknown or sketchy outer appearance: no photos;
fake, old or
"corrected" photos;
Even good and true photos don't really
tell you how a person REALLY looks like in real life.
-no variety in settings: you can't learn how he
behaves towards other
people or in different situations. You can only learn how he behaves if
he's on the look-out for a partner.
-you might find your true love - but you and him live far apart, so one
will need to uproot the other.
-The net facilitates lying, for reasons seen above. So you could waste
a lot of time on some fake. (to
facilitate = to
make easier)
Advantages:
-The net facilitates lying: This means liars are
likely to make some
stupid mistake that will become apparent on the very first date in real
life!
You COULD be wasting time on a fake - so don't. As soon as
you think the person is likely "partner material" if he is honest, date
him in real life.
-The net facilitates honesty/openness: especially in
the anonymous
stage, you can be a lot more open than you ever would on a first or
even third date. Beware however of hunters for blackmail material.
Don't disclose anything that could seriously hurt you..
There is no censure by society: for
example if you want
someone rich, you can say so.
No society-induced hypocracy unless you want it.
-Many, many more people are going to see your profile than you could
ever meet with the same degree of information in real life!
This is especially important if you have uncommon demands on
a relationship most wouldn't agree to or defects most wouldn't tolerate.
-Someone you've met on the net will likely be a stranger to your circle
of friends, so if things don't work out, you probably will never see
him again; no awkward situations at parties etc.
-Pre-Selection: the people who contact you or whom you contact ARE
looking for a relationship. No need to think of some way to find out if
he's available and may be interested in you, possibly harassing him or provoking infidelity or
making a desparate impression.
-Rejections are a lot easier to take, since far less personal. You
don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
Basic rules:
- there ARE sharks roaming the net, so take care, especially if you're
the trusting kind or easily intimidated or bad at defense or easily
duped. Log your
chats and study them. Don't go on a first date without backup
precautions. Things are no different in real life except that sharks
are harder to unmask there.
Still, the majority aren't sharks, so don't worry about risks that you can't decrease or avoid anyway.
- Be serious, unless you just want to fool around. Don't joke and don't
use irony unless it's obvious even to a complete stranger that it IS a
joke/irony. And don't indicate something as a joke if it isn't. Tell
your chat partner to do likewise.
- Study your chat logs for possible misunderstandings. Clear them up.
- read the "Tips"-section of your dating site and others for more
specific and more comprehensive advice.
Regard all tips critically, including these. They are
always generic of necessity, and some have commercial interests as a
background.
- Don't be shy to show mistrust and don't be offended if it's shown to
you, just find a mutually acceptable solution that will kill it (or at
least defuse it) on both sides on the first date.
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the couple should be patient and aware of the fact if they're tend to stay along with each other
- Simply put, people get lonely and are desperate to meet that special someone and that's where a person can get into a great deal of trouble. While there are some successes in meeting someone on the internet, meeting in person and falling in love the percentage is extremely low. I did some research into this very thing 2 years ago and the police are ready to rip their hair out! The crimes that culminate from online love interests is staggering. Kiddy porn, taking grieving widows for all the money they have, to rape, abuse, and on and on. lemme remind you this kind of relations is not suitable for everyone because as we know 90% are fake but we always count on 10%
There are many clubs in cities or larger towns that can help a person find the right mate for them. These GOOD clubs protect you and your privacy and one should never bring a stranger home until they get to know them much better. <i>my cousin met a guy online 7 years ago , but she was extremely deceptive and either her partner (he's from other country) by the time the more she got to know him the more she likes him and finally they fall in love with each other but they needed more than 5 years to meet up each other lore than 5 years and they were apart they got married after two years and she lives in his country</i>
It's OK to want to find someone to love and have them love you back, but it takes time and 2 days to 2 weeks or even 8 months is not near enough. I prove my point in saying, "No one even knows themselves 100% so how can they be expected to know a total stranger."
I have to agree with a few of the other posters that you are simply in love with love. There is much more to love and it takes time and effort.
I still don't get this online thing and think there is nothing better than the good old fashion way of seeing someone you are attracted too at school, work, a club, at friends and being interested in them and hopefully a relationship will come out of it.
This Saturday I'm going to a wedding of a very dear male friend of mine who is 43 and never been married. He was so lonely and thought he'd end up a bachelor for life. I was working for this 46 year old woman and met her sister Cathy. Cathy was in the same position as my male friend, and she had mentioned she was interested in him when she met him at one of the parties I was at. She was his age (never married before) and I asked her if she wanted me to take her phone number and give my male friend a call and she accepted (she was too shy to do it on her own.) I did call him and he was in the middle of a thesis and extremely busy, but promised me he would call her and had remembered her. It took two months, but they did get together and I was so excited when I heard (after they dated a year) that they were engaged to be married. When you looked at them you could see how much they loved each other just by looking at their eyes.
Basically I find some people generally lazy and wanting an easy solution to most of their problems. The Internet is just one way of being lazy and not actually having to do much to meet someone and form a true and lasting relationship. Most of us are shy in nature and it can be uncomfortable on a one-to-one, but look around at the older crowd and figure out how they met, fell in love, married or lived together and gee, there wasn't any Internet then! It's true that the person on the other end could be any type of character (good/bad), drugged or drunk out of their minds, laughing at you, or using you to their best advantage. There are some good people on the internet and I've made many good friends this way, but have always been extremely cautious, because I learned my lesson the hard way. I made friends with a girl off a chat board (I am a female) and we became friends over the internet. She told me she had cancer and had both breasts removed, and also that she had the disposition of genes that caused cancerous tumors. After a year I thought I knew her, and I was very kind to her (didn't send her money, but did send some jewelry to her) and we even talked on the phone. I thought our friendship had grown strong and once I have a good friend there isn't much I won't do for them. The long and short of it was, she was lying! You heard me right! I found out that she was a few pickles short of a jar, and she'd go around using this con of having cancer to get things out of people. It hurt me, but hey, I deserved it and I learned my lesson well and true. I do have 3 other friends I've been friends with over the Internet for 4 years. One lives in the UK, another in Wisconsin, another in Florida, Australia. I find it interesting and we learn much from each other such as our interests, politics, etc.
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I believe it is possible to meet someone through the internet and fall in love, but until you've actually spent time with them and got to know them in person, you can't truely be in love with them. You only know what they are saying to you, not always how they really are. And a week isn't a lot of time to know someone well enough to fall in love. If you think you could be in love with this person, you should meet with them, but be very safe. Meet with them in a public place in the day time. Have a friend go with you and stay at or near the place where you will be meeting, but not sit with you. You never really know these days. I truely hope this works for you, but just be safe adn know that what you know of someone on the internet isn't always who they really are. But on a side note, I know a couple who met on the Internet and got to know each other in person and are madly in love and now happily married, so it can work.
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Yes. It is very possible, but you really should meet them so you know for sure other than just chatting online. Talk on the phone and also in person and meet his or her family and friends get to know if he or she is who they really told you they are. Sometimes people lie. I actually fell in love with a guy on the intenet, and we met and we ended up being together for 2 in a half years. It can work, just make sure that everything's right. First don't tell them where you live. If you want to meet him or her, scedule a open place such as a mall, restraunt, or anywhere where there is people around. He or she won't know where you live because that can be very dangerous if her or she is some creep or psycho. Be careful with that sort of stuff. Well, just wanted to give you my imput. If you have any more questions, feel free to e-mail me. Bye. Hope I helped. Good luck!!!!!!!
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I think it's unrealistic to fall in love with someone online unless you have met them and have had a sustained face to face relationship for several months. You should meet as much as possible, you should go on dates, see each other's homes, etc.
Can you meet someone great on the Internet? Sure, but there are also a great many people who lie about their appearance, age, marital status, and criminal record. Online relationships don't allow you to see their regular life, nor can you see personal behaviors that may disturb you. Proceed with caution.
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Most definately!!!!!! I met my man over the net. We talked online for many months and then got together. He moved in with me, and we recently moved out of one state to another together. We plan on getting married and spending the rest of our lives together (he is 45 and I am 41). Just be careful!
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I believe it possible cause it has happened to me. When it happened to me it felt like God was telling me this was meant to be. I met this girl in a random conversation with some of my friends. She live near me. I has even seen her before seen her before, and she is beautiful. I know people who know her and she is real. So I find it possible to fall in love even if you have never met them face to face.
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Yes, it is. I think Internet romance has more potential because you can get to know someone personally without brushing them off immediately because of their appearance. You may also feel more confident in sharing things about yourselves initially since you're not talking face-to-face. The important thing is to make sure that you can find out if everything they say is really true and of course, make sure that if you do meet it's a safe situation.
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I am living proof of this question. My boyfriend and I are deeply in love, and we met over the Internet. Never say never...cause ANYTHING is possible.
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Falling in love over the internet can happen. Maybe some people dont believe it but its true, but if you do decide to meet this person make sure you have a friend that is watching from somewhere uncase something goes wrong, cause you never know these people now days. To of the people I know have ended up with somebody over the internet and are happily married.
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It is possible to find love over the internet but I think apart from checking out this person is who they say they are (my friend was chatting to a guy for 8 months only to eventually find he was 15) a week is not enough time to know if you love someone wether it be on the net or real life. There are players on the net that can generally keep a pretence going for sometime, I had this experience and even met the guy I knew loads about him that i checked out, i had his home number, mobile number, works number, home address, works address i even got to know his friends (who were in on the pretence) 2 years later i find out he's been married for 14 years! So be careful some of these players are very clever.
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You're in love with a concept, not an actual person. Remember, deception can often be 90% of the Internet population. Try someone who's real, that you can actually see, feel, touch, and watch to see if there are deceptions or mental illness, and don't forget how child preditors love to work on vulnurable, half witted, lower incomed, low self esteemed and lonely women to get to their children.
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It is possible to find true love on the Internet in a week or so. It happened to me. Three years later were getting married. I'm 24. I wasn't looking for it though I was just in a chat room a bit bored. We got on so swapped emails, then rang a few weeks later then he came to see me. Overtime we fell in love.
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It's possible, but it's very, very unlikely, and it's more likely to be infatuation than love. It IS however, possible to be both infatuated and in love. Many people confuse the two. Note that infatuation is not the same as love or lust.
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Well I think one can, but how true the love is depends on the physical contact and proximity!!!!! Don't get physical on net. Wait for it to happen in person. Take your time and wish for the best. Life sure comes around!!!!!
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Sure! It's just a new face to the age old question of love at first sight! In today's terms it is love at first site. Like any relationship though, you may know you are in love, but it is still going to take some time to develop it. If you marry the same week, I have a hunch that there is more infatuation than love involved. There is a lot of wisdom in waiting a bit before declaring that you love them. As long as you don't wait too long, they will respect you for waiting, and know with more certainty that you mean it. Every couple remembers the time they first made contact. Many knew right away that there was a spark even at day one.
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Absoutely!! Just know that you won't be able to "prove" it for quite some time, so you're increasing the risk factor more than in other situations. Why?
1) You can't see the person. I'm sure you've heard of tons of people for whom this worked and when they met in person, their love was as true as ever. However, I'm sure you can also recall that hundreds of people have met in person and discovered that something was wrong. Sometimes people don't have the chemistry they thought they would. Sometimes people lie about some part of themselves online and that comes out. And sometimes (very possible) there are parts of you or them that are not compatible that DO NOT SHOW UP online. There's nothing you can do about that - it's just the cold hard truth.
2) Finding true love with anyone in a few days (online or in person) is a lovely feeling, but just like all relationships, it has to stand the test of time. I'm sure you've heard of folks who got married after a week and made it work. I guarantee you there are tons of other folks who did the same thing and wound up in dysfunctional, abusive, unhappy marriages. Whether you're rushing into marriage or not, thinking you're in love right away is both romantic and risky. Fact is, you can't make a relationship work no matter HOW enthusastic you are. Maybe it will and maybe it won't. The only way to know for sure is TIME. Boring, I know. But things just don't show up right away unless you're IN PERSON and OVER TIME. If you want to jump the gun, there's nothing really wrong with saying you're in love sooner than that - it's just that there's a much higher chance of mysteries being revealed later. Some people get lucky and it works out. Some don't.
If you're under 18, please do not meet the person online. I just saw the news in San Diego about a girl who ended up dating a child molester online, and it was very creepy. If you're under 18, please talk to your parents about what you're doing and BE SAFE by talking to other people.
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I have met a number of really great people online, but I have also met some real freaks. My advice: be real. If you go into a situation where you are meeting someone online and chatting, be yourself and enjoy. It can be fun emailing and getting to know someone. Can it be true love? I am sorry to say but I agree that love is improbable without actually meeting. I chatted online with a really nice guy for about a month, but when we met it just wasn't "there." Anyway, conclusion being - it is fun for entertainment.
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No, No, No, No! That is not love, that is lust. How could you possible "love" someone you dont even know in just a few days? It's obscene. In my opinion, love is something which needs time to evolve. Love is about trust, commiment, and give and take. It's impossible to love someone you dont even know in a few days. Sorry.
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It takes more than a few days to fall in love, even in person!
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I've read through the current selection of answers, and I must truly admit I find myself saddened by the apparent abundance of naivety when it comes to "Internet love". I've been an Internet relationship "expert" of sorts since before the internet existed and chatting consisted of leaving messages on a BBS server in hopes that it would be read by its intended recipient on their next log-in.
The very idea that an individual can "fall in love" with someone online is a pure joke in every way. Until two people have met, experienced each other face-to-face, for an extended period of time, have witnessed each others lifestyles, each others many different colors and masks then love, or what you are thinking is love, is not that at all.
First, it is not the individual that you think you are in love with, it is YOUR imagination, YOUR image, the way YOU hear words being spoken to you, the expressions, the emotions that YOU add into written words. You think you are in love, and maybe you are, but it is with something that in NO way is reality.
You may talk to someone ten times a day on the telephone, you may chat for hours on instant messenger and feel as though you've never met someone who connects so well with you, and, well, to be honest, that much is true, because other than the actual words being used, every other part of that conversation is a figment of your imagination and is going to fit whatever idealistic image you have in your head. Who adds the emotion, the tone of voice, the laughs, the facial expressions, the background, the feeling to every conversation? The reader does. You may be talking to someone on the phone, all you hear is their voice. Can you see that while they are talking with you they are wearing clothing designed for the opposite sex, are picking their nose, live in a dump, smoking, drinking, you name it, have a laugh like a hyena, snort when they get nervous, and let's not forget don't look anything at all like the picture they sent to you which is either three years old, slightly blurry, black and white, taken on the best possible day ever, or, simply, honestly, just a picture, 2 demensional, and though it may show that they have a pretty face or other features that you may find attractive, doesn't show other ones which may disgust you.
Someone may argue that with the invent of the web camera that the need for trusting pictures has deminished. Someone please point out to me a web camera that comes across perfectly clear, perfect lighting indoors as though you are standing face to face with someone, oh, and which can do full body views, while the subject is still standing close enough to even get a good view at all.
In my years of varied experience in this matter, I find 90 percent of the time that one of two things is true. A man will claim to be in love, to have a million feelings, to say everything a woman wants to hear because the internet, to a man is simply a bigger meat market. 85 percent of the time, its about nothing more then sex with men online. They'll say anything, do anything, travel numerous distances, and its all just to get a woman in bed. With a woman, she truly wants love, she's truly looking for it, desires it, craves it, and is easily blinded by the man who claims to have it for her.
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I don't believe someone could find true love that fast. Nothing is known about the other person,they could be feeding you a line lies. Be very careful. Don't give them your real name,age or address and please don't plan to meet them anywhere alone.
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I met the woman I love online. We started by talking, and found out how much we were alike each other. In a few days, I fell in love with her. When I finally met her, I ended up being more in love with her. We meet frequently, and I'm growing to know her more as a close friend I can hold and love then just a friend, so yes, it is entirely possible.
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I met someone lately over the internet. Only problem is that she lives in the USA and i live in Germany. ( so please dont mind my spelling )
I fell in love with her, and after time i had to ask her if she had feelings for me aswell. She answered yes, since then we have been chattin a bit more and a bit deeper. I started havein the feeling as if she was right here with me, and she had it too...
I mean, everytime she says she kisses me, hugs me or holds me...
or even if she says she starts to pat my head, I... I can realy feel it as if she was with me.
I think that some people dont want to feel this because they know the person is far away, and some people kinda just dont put hope into it.
But as true as my feelings are to her i want to get enough money and meet her for atleast a week. Love over the internet IS possable, and it hit me like a buller in the head. This feelings is diffrent than anyother i have yet had, and i must say its been the best one. Just remeber, talk to her/him about it. And even if you both have feelings for each other, both shouldnt stop for someone that lives closer... but its possable, as true as this post here is.
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It is not love until you have met, until then its a connection which can and often does fade or lessen on meeting. If you think you are in love, you're wrong.If you love them, why are you apart? Think on it. Even if you just meet for one hour on one day YOU MUST MEET AS SOON AS POSSIBLE or you could be wasting your life on someone who is not right for you.
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Possible, not probable.
Talk to them on the phone a lot, Meet them in person a lot. People can be very different on the internet than they are in real life.
Nope, get off the internet.
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this kind f relation is only possible for lucky ones it's possible to find a soulmate throught the internet but it provides many restrictions and efforts and patience in the end we can realise that the couple can get along along with other it needs time to make sure of the honestity of ur partner generally it takes more than 2 years
with wsome conditions of course
? the couple should keep in touch with each other and let the other knows evrything about him/ her
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