If your girlfriend asked you to marry her when you just started dating what do you say without breaking her heart?

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You are a real great guy for bothering to ask this question. Thanks!

There is such a thing as a "Promise to Get Engaged" ring. It's not an engagement ring, but can have other stones in it, or just a fancy little silver or gold ring you can get at a Kiosk in the mall (small little stands with goodies on the tables .. sort of like a little market.) These rings are lovely, but around $40 - $60 and probably cheaper in the States. This signifies that you have made a commitment to be with her until to plan to get engaged. If you don't like this idea then here is a suggestion:

Just tell her you aren't ready to commit yet. Let her know you care for her and want to get to know her better. If she's a smart girl she'll still date you, wait to get to know each other and have a more meaningful relationship before marriage or you will have to break the whole thing off. Honesty is the best policy. I'd do it as soon as you can to take the worry off your shoulders and you won't be left standing, guessing. Be sure to do it in private and not amongst family or friends.

Perhaps this will help. Tell her:

"I haven't felt like this about another girl before and I care deeply for you, but I want us to get to know each other first and wait at least a year and then we can talk about it." This will let her know you still care enough to consider. If she can't handle this truth then please just move on and don't rush into marriage.

Good luck Marcy

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You wanna know what to say without breaking her heart? Tell her "no, I don't want to get married." Otherwise, you will just string her along with you and suck her in with your unclear messages. She might end up wasting a good chunk of her life on you, then you will really break her heart. You can't procrastinate with people's emotions.

Don't pat yourself on the back too hard for thinking about her heart. Maybe it's your heart you're really worried about here, not hers.

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